From BANGLAORE to MYSORE to HASSAN to CHIKMAGLUR and back.
Some may point to the food or the clothing as the most obvious signs of difference between the North and the South, but for me it was encapsulated in the sights along our drives from destination to destination. While the north can be brown and dry, the south is green and lush. While the north lets color pop in their saris, turbans and trucks, the south lets the color spill onto their homes and businesses. From the road you can see the region’s lifeline – its agriculture – paddies of rice, feilds of sugarcane, and forests of coffee and tea. Here’s just a glimpse at the sight from our short trip in the south. As you can see, there’s one thing that does stay consistent between north and south… Indians try to fit ALOT on their bikes.
Jaipur holds a special place close to my heart (Coincidence, it’s called the Pink City?). I’ve been to India three times. Each time I’ve gone to Jaipur, and each time I’ve appreciated it more. First, this is the city closest to Udayan, the home for street children where I spent 5 weeks in 2006. I flew to India by myself as a 19 year old girl to experience a different culture and help other people. But let’s be blunt — While I taught English, Drama and Painting, it was really I who learned a life’s worth of lessons. I gave them the love that I could, and I hope it helped. But the perspective and resilience I witnessed on the trip changed me for life. I plead to whoever wants to volunteer in another country – stay for a significant amount of time for a greater chance at making an impact, as well as experiencing more immersion.
But back on topic!
Founded in 1727, Jaipur is the capital of the state of Rajasthan. It is called the Pink City, because the entire city was painted pink, the color of hospitality, for a visit by the Prince of Wales and Queen Victoria in the 1800’s. The population has maintained the practice ever since, which may be one of the contributing factors to making the city one of the most visited by foreign tourists. In some ways it has resisted modernization and therefore is a bit more charming than New Delhi. But with close to 7 million people, it’s still on the crowded side.
On Day 4 we arrived in the evening. One of our goals on the trip was to get some clothes tailored. This was under the guise of having Indian clothes to wear at future events, but let’s be honest – they’d essentially be souvenirs. And why not! I highly recommend you engage a tailor for a salwar or even a man’s button up shirt. Just make sure they have enough time to make it and deliver it to your hotel (24 hours preferred). If you want a sari, I suggest using the time for this, because unless you want a stretchy, one-size-fits-all blouse, you’ll need it sewn (blouse material is included in price of sari). Warning: They will take every bolt of cloth off the shelves to lay out in front of you. You will feel awkward and guilty as you know someone will have to fold it all again. But there’s little you can do. It’s how they like to do it. Just be clear with what you want. And try not to get frustrated when you say “blue” and they show you red, green, and black. It’s not a language barrier thing, it’s their theory that they’ll magically inspire you to want all of them.
Having eaten Indian food for several days, that night we took a break with an Italian restaurant. To our confusion, despite looking like an Olive Garden type chain, they were out of half the things on the menu. I’ll never take endless pasta for granted again!
Hotel Mansingh | Sansar Chandra Road | MI Road, Jaipur 302001, India
A large step up from the Hotel Mansingh in Agra, this hotel was clean and spacious with greater sense of grandeur. The quality of breakfast was measurably better and included a manned egg station.
After all my worrying about my family getting sick, it was I who ended up needing to check in with a doctor. I’d experienced stomach issues on a previous trip; a case in which the prescription diarrhea pill did the trick. However, a trip to the bathroom the morning of our only full day in Jaipur seemed a tad different. Asking the front desk for the best local urgent care facility or doctor, they offered to call a concierge doctor. About 30 minutes later, a well dressed, middle-aged woman arrived with a leather briefcase. Up in our room I described my symptoms. Accustomed to travelers like me, she didn’t seem the least bit alarmed. Out of her magical leather briefcase, she produced dozens and dozens of different colored pills. I had to start writing the dosages and timings down and pleaded with my husband (who has a much better memory) to try to catch it all. There were medications to every symptom and then medications to deal with the side effects of the medications. She drew up the bill and I think her visit plus the medications came out to about $22. I don’t even want to think about how much red tape and cash I’d have to go through to get the equivalent service and medications in America. I popped some pills and grabbed an auto rickshaw to meet up with my family. India may have been the source of my ailments, but she also made the solution just as quick. We’ll get into the consequences of over medication, particularly antibiotics, another day…
An encapsulation of Jaipur’s history, this amber sandstone and marble fort is built above its water source, the Maota Lake. More palace than fort, this site had a huge impact on me on my first trip. It was unfortunate that I missed it, but at least my family got to go. As many guide books will mention, you can choose an elephant ride or jeep ride up the long stone path to the gates. Inside, the opulent rooms will bring palace life alive in your imagination. Like most forts, it also has a public and private audience hall, plus a mirrored room. A personal favorite is the peacock mosaic artwork. Watch out for the number of hawkers that will be there since it’s such a hot tourist spot. You may need a guide to appreciate all of the history, but make sure you can understand them before you hire them! Also, some say this could take a day. I think 2-3 hour works.
I’ll talk about it because I should. But I’ll be honest, I’m not a science/math girl, so I’ve never been particularly intrigued despite how advanced this yard full of astronomical instruments was at the time it was built. Plus, I was so miserable from the heat and my stomach issue, that I could only stand for 5 minutes before my poor husband took me back to the air conditioning in the waiting tour van. This Rajput-built UNESCO World Heritage site is the home of the world’s largest sun dial. The stone monuments allow the viewer to see astronomical movements with the naked eye. It’s impressive… don’t listen to me…you should go see it.
This is another impressive, famous site; but when you’re starving, and you’ve already seen a gorgeous, massive palace/fort that morning, it’s not a sin to pass up. Since the majority of the palace is still a royal residence, you may only walk around a museum set up within several of the rooms. You should do it if you trip to India is short. Why not? It’s literally across the street from Jantar Mantar. But with 5 more cities to go, we were hungry and we were feeling cheap – so we passed this time around.
Mandir = Temple
Birla = The wealthy family who has been building temples throughout India for the past 80 years.
We hit up this temple on our way out of town. We had hoped to visit Pushkar that day, but the guide alerted us to the fact that it was a religious holiday, and therefore would be so crowded that it would ruin the entire experience (the city is a main pilgrimage site). Instead, we decided to spend some time here and arrive in Jodhpur a bit early.
They asked my husband to leave…
This gleaming white temple is modern and active. In Hindu fashion, you will see carvings of the world’s great religious teachers and figure, not just Hinduism’s. You’ll leave your shoes with an attendant and walk on the cold white marble in your bare feet. If you want to donate a bit, you can walk around the idol clockwise. The carvings on the wall depict popular Hindu stories. A moment that sticks out from this stop was when some young Indian men told my husband to take a hike so they could have a photos with us all. At this point, we were used to the celebrity status, but I had decided that if they want a photo of me, my husband was going to be in it too.
Since we’d be in the van for hours, I suggested we check out the local temple nearby dedicated to a different deity. Locals take off their shoes walk in through one of the lines, receive a blessing and leave. Some buy sweets to have offered in the temple.
Seeking another break from the norm and a fun exercise in globalisation, we ate at McDonald’s. With Hinduism’s worship of cows prevalent in the culture, there is no beef burger served. Beef is so rare in India, that I suggest never eating it because you don’t know where it came from or how long it’s been there. I had some bland Mcnuggets for my stomach, but the McSpicy Paneer was a big hit in my group. If you look around, you’ll see that McDonald’s is a regular restaurant for middle class families without the negative connotations that Americans put on fast food these days.
A short anecdote. My dad needed a camera battery. If you know my dad, a camera on a trip is not just an accessory, it’s an extension of his arm. We tried to think of all sorts of things to solve the problem, including using Amazon to ship something in country to a future destination. But the answer was right in front of us – our guide, Sanjay. Between sightseeing and shopping stops, he pulls the 9 passenger van into what some might call an alley. To the left and right were closet-sized shops overflowing with gadgets and tech-type things. Apparently, this was the neighborhood to get all things camera. Sanjay, my dad and the guys left the van to look. Unfortunately, I don’t remember the details, but in entailed every shop owner swearing they had the battery. One finally produced the goods.
In the meantime, the ladies are in the van watching the scenery. The driver stood guard by our van. Across the street there was a woman selling oil from a vat. Behind a colorful door was a mother and her children. She would occasionally come out to wash dishes in a bowl of water, spilling the dirty water onto the street. Monkeys darted in and out of the scene as easily and unremarkably as would cats. We bolted from our seats when we saw an elephant lumbering down the extremely narrow street. He just meanders past us. All of us just laughed at the absurdity if it all. My dad was haggling in camera alley as monkey and elephants meandered by. Welcome to India.
Jewelry Stop – Shopping!
If you are on a tour, you will be brought to a jewelry store to be “taught” about Jaipur’s famous industry. The lesson consists of showing how semi-precious stones are ground down and polish. Then the real fun begins in their showroom… As long as you know going in that you’ll be plied with drinks and salesmen will follow you around, it won’t be so horrible. We found the prices to be fairly comparable to the U.S., but if you’re looking for something with significance, at least you can tell people where you got it.
I’ll wrap it up with restating my undying love for Jaipur, and these amusing photos of a whole family on one motorcycle and a turban shop.
Agra is the home of the Taj Mahal. For most people, that’s all they need to know for them to visit. But don’t be fooled; there’s much more… both good and bad. So while I’ll talk about the stunning World Heritage sites Taj Mahal, Agra Fort and the lesser known Fatehpur Sikri; I do have some controversial thoughts that will help you prepare and take advantage.
Here’s the part no-one tells you: Agra is dirty. Not just a layer-of-dust dirty; it’s trash-everywhere-you-step dirty. While some Indian cities have had street cleaning initiatives in recent years, there seems to be a culture of lax littering and shrugging off pollution in Agra. The slums and squatter population totals an extraordinary 50% of the city’s population with
850,000 people. The poverty that visitors see when driving into the city may be very… eye-opening, but it’s as much a part of India (right now, hopefully not forever) as Taj’s grandeur. Everyone just needs to remember that each Indian city is as unique as New York or Minneapolis or San Diego. It’s why I suggest seeing Jaipur, Udaipur or Jodhpur in addition to Agra and New Delhi – to see the calmer/cleaner side of Northern India.
Below: Taj Mahal, Agra Fort, Fatehpur Sikri, Lodging & a fun tale
Now that you’ve had a warning, it’s time to get you excited. Welcome to the epitome of India’s juxtapositions, Agra’s poverty against one of the Seven Wonders of the World. The Taj Mahal, a tomb built by an Emperor’s love, is breathtaking and perfect. The precision of its construction makes you think you’re looking at a postcard. When you take off your shoes (which you’re required to do), and put your bare feet on marble, the pristine picture becomes all too real.
Let me rewind. You will need to buy a Foreigner ticket for 750 rupees (in 2015). Indians pay 20 rupees. But as you’ll see, the Foreigner ticket helps you cut an epic line. (Indians willing to pay the 750 can also cut the line). The ticket includes a bottle of water and “footies” – fabric booties that you need to cover your shoes to step on the gorgeous white marble. Make sure you step into the correct line when walking through the ticket line – there is one for men and one for women. They’re tight and uncomfortable, but push through and it will open up into a courtyard. The gateway itself is impressive, but as you look through the archway to the Taj, it will be a moment you’ll never forget.
view from the Taj Mahal
The obligatory Taj Mahal pic
The exterior courtyard
When you’re up there, don’t forget to look across the river to where the Mughal King had planned on building an identical tomb in black for himself… too bad his own son imprisoned him and took his “throne.” Take your time and enjoy the views! Note: this site won’t take up the whole day.
While this fort is impressive from the outside (my family loved the Indiana Jones-style rolling stone defense gate), my interest was captured by the complex family palace. Akbar the Great was known for his relatively peaceful reign of religious tolerance in which Hindus, Christians, Muslims and more all got along. I’m not sure which came first – if his rule was a result of, or inspired by, his marriages, but Akbar married three women – one Hindu, one Muslim and one Christian (from the Portuguese influenced Southern India). Of course, he had an impressive harem as well, but it was expected at the time and often had political significance. His palace reflects these separate spaces for each of his wives.
Indian Jones Boulder Trap
Fun side facts:
The kitchen was for the Hindu wife who enjoyed cooking and could only eat vegetarian.
The white marble bedrooms belonged to Shah Jahan’s daughters. When his son imprisoned him, it was in this fort that one of his daughters cared for him until his death. He was held there so that he could look out at the Taj Mahal, his wife’s tomb.
The green courtyard was once used as a bazaar staffed only by women, so that his wives and concubines could shop without being seen by men.
This may look like another fort, but it’s more accurate to think of it as a city. 2mi x 1mi, it is surrounded by 5 miles of fortified wall. Inside you will find several different segments to visit: a palace, a mosque and the tomb of a Sufi saint. We came up through the “back door” to avoid the crowds and peddlers. We saw where the crumbled walls showed the stalls that were used by the locals to sell their wares when the city was the empire’s capital. The walk was markedly peaceful.
The multiple buildings within palace were incredibly intriguing to me. You had the public and private viewing hall. You had Emperor Akbar’s winter and summer bedrooms. Plus, there’s an ornately carved mini-palace for each of Akbar’s brides. If you look closely, you can see that each is carved in the style of the bride’s culture/religion – Hindu/Gujarati, Muslim and Christian. You’ll see a platform in the center of a pool, used for singing competitions. Next time someone makes fun of American Idol – you can let them know it’s merely following a human tradition historically enjoyed by Emporers.
Center of audience chamber
That’s just part one. The second is a pilgrimage site made up of a mosque and Sufi tomb. You must leave your shoes outside. I can’t guarantee it, but your shoes will probably be there when you get out – ours were. The Tomb is in a white structure in the center of a large stone courtyard. You can take a look and take pictures from the outside; but if you want to participate, it will cost you. It costs about 750 rupees/$12 per person or couple to enter. You’re given a plastic hat to cover your head. You walk around the “casket” in a dark room. You lay out a fabric you were given on top as an offering. Then you tie a red threat with three knots on a carved metal grate, making a wish. As you leave, you’re hit on the head with some peacock feathers. Voila, you’re blessed. The price seems a tad steep, but you will be participating in a ritual that thousands of local Indians do. This stop broke up a long day of travel to Ranthambore.
The tale of the local guide
This is a tale of how we were conned… and how everything turned out OK anyway.
Thomas Cook had arranged a local guide to show us through Fatehpur Sikri. He was knowledgable and knew a back entrance that kept us away from the relentless peddlers at the main gate. He walked us through the process at the tomb. All was good, until he told us we should meet his brother… his “brother” was hunkered down in a corner behind a wall with some of his friends. The guide explained that the carved stones were his family’s trade. I’m sure it won’t surprise you that I now have 0% faith that those men were relatives at all.
A few of our members stepped back to watch, but my parents and I couldn’t turn away from the figurines – it was our first time to really shop. The prices seemed astronomical until my Mother-in-Law stepped in. Soon it was my MIL making package deals. We were generally satisfied as we walked away.
After a short bus ride to the parking lot where we’d meet our van, we were led to a group of buildings. The local guide politely asked my MIL in Hindi if we would mind stopping by the government store. His tour guide company required him to bring the groups here. That’s when it clicked… the stop by his “brother’s” business was off-script. It took about 30 seconds in the government shop, where the prices are fixed, for my MIL to see that a few of the items we purchased were overpriced even after negotiating. I bought two magnets before we were hustled out the door by a furious MIL. We all shuffled back to the van without her. After about 5 minutes, my MIL stormed back on the bus with a very contrite looking guide. We dropped him at the exit and were on our way. That’s when my MIL explained: The guide begged her to not tell his supervisors. But my MIL wasn’t hearing it. She hated the idea that she had paid more than she needed to. It wasn’t the game that he was playing that irked her, it was the fact that she paid more for the figurines than she could have gotten at the store. We don’t know what she said exactly, but she got him to turn over 2000 rupees to pay her back for the difference. Don’t mess with my MIL!
Lodging – Mansigh Palace
I’m usually very easy going when it comes to hotels. I don’t want to be a princess about anything, especially since we were staying in hotels as opposed to hostels. However, I found that the service here rubbed me the wrong way. The hotel restaurant had an extremely odd menu that attempted to cater to international tastes and had poor selection Indian food. A large amount of the international food involved raw vegetables, which you’d think they would know most visitors have been advised not to eat. We really wanted some samosas – just a snack to hold us over, but the menu only said they were available as a “Late Night Bite”. After much negotiating, we got some snacks out, but nothing to write home about. Breakfast was lackluster as well – just soggy, sorry excuses for continental cuisine. Overall, the manager’s attitude was unwelcoming.
The only interesting twist to the hotel was the backyard pool with peacock topiary. There is no way I’d even dip a toe in the dirty water, but at lease it was fun to take picture on the stepping stones.
I love the smell of air pollution in the morning! I kid, I kid…
November is the best weather of the year, but without significant winds, the pollution lingers heavy over the city. When I mentioned how surprised I was that the air was SO polluted, an Indian American friend of mine said, “Of course, it’s insane. Everything in New Delhi is insane.”
Sprawling and crowded, both modern and historic, Delhi is the seat of India’s government, an international hub, and arguably its most famous city. Old Dehli was founded in 1639 and was the center of the Mughal Dynasty until its collapse, which is why we have incredible forts and monuments to look at hundreds of years later. New Dehli was built from 1911 – 1931 by George V, Emperor of India. A good visit includes sites in both.
Here are some of the highlights of our day in New Delhi, in case it can help you plan your travels. If you have any specific questions, feel free to email me at samosasandsunshine[at]gmail.com
HOTEL: The lalit Hotel
Barakhamba Avenue, Connaught Place, Near Modern School, New Delhi, Delhi 110001, India
Clean and modern. A perfect choice for an international traveler who isn’t looking to “rough it.” The breakfast buffet was mediocre by my measure, but did include international food. For my family’s first trip, I think it was a good transition for them. The formal doorman is always a nice touch.
My favorite part of this World Heritage Site is imagining what it must have been like day-to-day. The fort includes the public audience hall where the local farmer brought his grievances to the emperor. The wives and concubines would watch the proceedings through grills carved into the the marble and sandstone because they weren’t allowed to be seen by the general public. There is an entire carved building just for dancers to perform for the royal family. There are the Emperor and his wives private quarters, including what must have been a very luxurious bathroom. Just take a moment to let the other visitors disappear and see the fort in its heyday. These pictures don’t do the sprawling fort justice. If you’re a fan of WWI history, there is also a military museum dedicated to the period in the entrance archway that once housed the musicians that played the emperors entrance music.
Open: Tue-Sun; Mondays closed Timings: Sunrise to Sunset Entry Fee: 10 (Indians), 250 (foreigners) Photography: Nil (25 for video filming) Sound & Light Shows: 6pm onwards in English and Hindi Ticket: 80 (adults), 30 (children)
A Royal bath
Mathura Road, Nizamuddin, New Delhi, Delhi 110013, India
Look a tad familiar? Humayun’s tomb is the predecessor to the Taj Mahal. Humayun, the second Mughal Emperor earned his place in Delhi. After his army was driven out to India to Persia, he made his triumphant return in 1555, only to die falling down a flight of stairs shortly after. It definitely leaves an stunning first impression. There is a steep set of stairs to enter the tomb. It is not handicap accessible.
Location: Opp. Dargah Nizamuddin, Mathura Road Metro Station: JLN Stadium Open: Daily Timings: Sunrise to sunset Entry Fee: 10 (Indians), 250 (foreigners) Photography Charges: None (`25 for video filming)
Parliament & India Gate
Big, impressive and covered in monkeys. They can’t fit their parliament into one building, so they have three. I’m not sure if a tour is possible, but the traffic was nonexistent on the weekend, so we were able to pull up in front, get out and take pictures. The India Gate is a straight shot from the parliament building through a long park, very similar to
View from parliament to India Gate
On the job
LUNCH: The imperial
Janpath Lane, Connaught Place, New Delhi, 110001
Have you ever wanted to live at Downton Abbey? Have you ever wanted to live in Downton Abbey and then take a trip to India? The Imperial Hotel makes you feel like you’re walking into a novel or Masterpiece’s Indian Summers. We had the impeccably presented lunch buffet. If you ask the concierge, you may get a tour of the other restaurants and bars in the hotel – each have their own story and history.
After a quick walk through of the small museum earlier in the day, we came back for the light show (after dark, about $30-40 pp). About 80 folding chairs are set up facing one of the only crumbling, yet standing walls left of the Old Fort. For about 30 minutes brilliant colors and loud music guides through the history of the six Mughal emperors that ruled Delhi. If I was quizzed, I’d say I remember Babur, Human, Akbar and Sha-Jahan…4 out of 6 ain’t bad! I’d say the content was a bit dense and the program overall a bit long, but it was certainly a unique experience. However, if you’re a history buff and can’t make it, you will hear their stories many times in your travels across the North. The Mughal emperors’ lives rival soap operas, with wars, romance, family betrayal and more. For example, the emperor who built the Taj Mahal was arrested and locked away before he could build the black mausoleum that would have mirrored the Taj and been his own resting place. Or there’s Akbar who had one Hindu wife, one Muslim wife, one Christian wife, and 50 concubines. While there may have been drama in his personal life, his open and accepting love life reflected his political beliefs, and the region enjoyed tolerance, peace and prosperity.
Location: Near Delhi Zoo, Mathura Road Nearest Metro Station: Pragati Maidan Open: All days Entry Fee: 5 (Indians), 100 (foreigners) Days Closed: None Photography Charges: Free (still camera); 25 (video camera)
Diplomatic Enclave, Sardar Patel Marg, Chankyapuri, New Delhi – 110021
I saved the best for last! Bukhara – a “frontier”, rustic themed restaurant with the best grilled meat (tandoori) I’ve ever had. I’ll admit I didn’t have the average experience. Our dinner was a wedding reception of around 35 people, so our menu was set. Dish after dish of meat kept rolling out: prawns, lamb, chicken, fish… It was all dowsed in Indian spices, predominately a coriander mixture – my favorite! They serve exclusively North Indian cuisine, but that seems to let them perfect the food they feature. The online reviews are over the top and for good reason. You can view the chefs as they cook from behind a class wall (probably to keep the smell of the grill from overwhelming). This is not a cheap date… but if you’re OK with the price, then you’ll thoroughly enjoy it. Trip Advisor has some pictures of the menu, if you’re curious about the price. Note: The restaurant is located inside a hotel.
Contact: Bukhara, ITC Maurya, A Luxury Collection Hotel
I wrote these tips while we were in the trenches (a.k.a. on the trip), so this advice is pure. These are the things we couldn’t do without. Note: this is specific to a family trip (I had my parents, an aunt, a MIL, a family friend, a sister and Brother-in-law). If you want to backpack and rough it in your early 20s, I’ll write a different post about that (cause I did it in 2006 & 2007).
1. An Open Mind
Ya, it’s cheesy, but you won’t know what this means until you get there. India is the ultimate juxtaposition of the extremes of humanity. Wealth and poverty. Beauty and trash. Ancient and modern. Fast and slow. Frenetic and calm. Lush and dry… I could go on and on. So be ready to get dirty and be ready to get uncomfortable (just wait until I get to the story of our flat tire at midnight in the middle of nowhere), but also be ready to know that you’re in the middle of a perspective-changing, once-in-a-lifetime experience. You’ll be out of your element – rejoice in it.
2. The Usual
Follow all the general advice you see online: don’t drink anything but bottled water, don’t eat raw vegetables, bring lots of wet wipes and toilet paper, leave your jewelry… Go to a travel clinic and get your malaria and diarrhea medication. Mentally prepare for possibly using a hole in the ground as a toilet (learn how to squat!).
3. A tour guide/driver you trust
We used Thomas Cook to book the first week of our tour. I have to say that we really lucked out with the tour guide they booked. The guide/driver should be experienced, especially if you have no native Indians in your group. We had two hired people with us – an experienced driver who knew English, and an assistant, whose sole job it was to guard the van (and often us) at all times. Later in the trip with a different driver and no assistant, we caught him out of sight of the van and the doors unlocked… when you’re in a foreign country, you can lose trust fast. Peace of mind is priceless.
So, if you can, try to book our guide, Sanjay!
Sanjay Yadav – L.A.K. Tourist Taxi Service
Based in New Delhi, Sanjay is originally from the Jaipur area and very knowledgable of the city. One particular thing we appreciated was that while we were brought to conventional “tourist trap” type stores, he would step inside first and ask them to tone it down. The result was english-speaking store owners who treated us relatively fairly. He would warn us where and when to buy things so that we weren’t ripped off (too much… you can’t change that they know you’re foreigners). Also, he was extremely flexible – if we wanted to change the plan, he would know a different location or restaurant to fit the new plan. For example, we had planned on a trip to Pushkar, but he knew that the weekend we were traveling was a significant religious festival. If we had gone, the crowds would have been bordering on dangerous. We adjusted accordingly.
4. A MIL
ok… so this isn’t always possible. But my amazing MIL was our life-saver. She spoke up when she thought we were being treated unfairly (just wait until my story at Fatepur Sikri). She haggled, grouping our purchases together and demanding a group discount. When we ended the trip, noone could express the magnitude of their gratitude for her guidance and positive spirit.
But in more manageable terms – someone knowing even the most basic of Hindi will be an asset.
5. A Working ATM card
Let your bank know you’re traveling! You’ll be making many cash withdrawals. And never get too low, there’s no guarantee any particular ATM will accept your card to withdraw money. I however had no issue with stores.
6. A Neck Pillow
No joke. With jet lag, you’ll be sleeping in the tour van. You’ll need the sleep and down time, so upgrade to the memory foam!
7. Antibacterial Gel
Besides the fact that the chance a bathroom will have soap is iffy, you’ll need to disinfect your hands often if you plan to eat like the locals do: with your hands. Though you are given many passes as a tourist, there’s one custom I suggest you follow: Don’t eat with your left hand. It’s an unspoken “truth” that you use your left hand to wipe, so only your right hand is appropriate for eating.
8. A Bargaining Backbone
Bargaining/haggling is expected. It will feel very uncomfortable at first, but practice makes perfect. It is more important to know how much something is worth to you, than it is to know what it actually costs. Even after haggling and threatening to walk away, you still may end up paying more than a local would pay. Don’t beat yourself up – as long as you feel comfortable paying it, go for it. But also, don’t be afraid to say no. They’ll be pushier than you can imagine and follow you around the store. Don’t make eye contact with street vendors or children selling trinkets – they’ll become relentless if you even acknowledge them. A good trick in a larger group is to bargain for the whole group at once. See if you can get a discount for larger volume. If they’re not bringing the price down, grab something and ask for it to be thrown in for free. It’s worked for me!
Got these down? Great, let’s get started with where you’re going. First stop, New Delhi…
This past trip has me wondering if my life calling isn’t in media, but in travel tours. You looking to travel to India? Let me know! I’m about to start my own boutique agency from my couch. Seriously… firstname.lastname@example.org
India is a massive country the spans diverse terrains, cultures, religions, languages… I could go on and on. So it’s daunting when you first try to plan a trip. Where do you begin?
Most start with the Golden Triangle – the relatively close cities of New Delhi, Agra and Jaipur. You get to see a major city, the Taj Mahal and a range of forts/palaces. To expand on that there are a few extra cities/locations you can tack on that are in driving distance: Udaipur, Jodhpur, Ranthambore National Park, or Pushkar. I’ve done this route three times… starting to feel really comfortable with it.
Part 2 for us, and a second trip for most, is South India – Mumbai, Goa, Chennai, Bengaluru, Kerala, etc. This climate is much more tropical and the food distinct from the North (I love a good dosa!) You’ll need a flight or very long train ride to connect a trip North with a trip around the South.
side note: don’t worry about being a “tourist”. You are one; accept it. You will experience India even if you visit the major sites. India will get in your face no matter what… just throw in a few restaurants outside the hotel and get outside the tour van every once in a while to make sure. If I get my act together and really start planning for people, I would include a few trips to “normal” locations – someone’s house, the mall, a hospital – just to be able to compare and get the full picture of Indian life.
Our India itinerary
Day 1: Delhi
Day 2: Agra
200kms drive from Delhi to Agra; approx. 3 1/2 hrs
Day 3: Travel Agra – Ranthambore
250kms drive from Agra to Ranthambore; approx. 5 1/2 hrs
Fateh Pur Sikri (A fort and shrine on the outskirts of Agra)
Day 4: Ranthambore
Ranthambore Tiger Reserve
180kms drive from Ranthambore to Jaipur; approx. 4 1/2 hrs
Day 5: Jaipur
Day 6: Jaipur
Shree Laxmi Narayan Birla Temple
335kms from from Jaipur to Jodhpur; approx. 6 hr
You could stop at Pushkar along the way, but an annual festival made it too crowded for us to stop.
Day 7: Jodhpur
Osian Village Tour
Day 8: Jodphur
Umaid Bhawan Palace
Day 9: Mumbai
1 hr flight from Jodhpur to Mumbai
There are many great things to see in this city, but we had to focus on our wedding reception that evening.
Day 10: Bengaluru
Flight from Mumbai to Bengaluru
Start drive to Mysore stopping at a few malls to wait out traffic
180 kms; approx. 5/6 hr drive due to speed bumps along route
Day 11: Mysore
Sri Nandi Temple
Mysore Winter Palace (A reasonably priced hotel!)
Day 12: Hassan
120kms Mysore to Hassan; approx. 3 hours
Day 13: Chikmagalur
65mks Hassan to Chikmagalur (Serai Resort); approx 2 hrs
Coffee Resort & Spa
Tea Plantation about 60 kms away
Day 14: Bangalore
248kms Chikmagalure to Bangalore; approx 6 hours
St. Thomas Cathedral (very intriguing for a Christian to see South Indian interpretation of religion)
Vidhana Soudha (Government Building)
There is much more, but we spent the time with family
The drives may seem rough, but if you’re traveling with people you like and the kind of travelers who need a break every once in a while, the tour vans give you that break while keeping you on the move. You won’t even find yourself napping that much… there’s just too much to see out the window. (That’s why I recommend a van over a tourist bus… closer to the ground, less tinted windows, etc.) Indian traffic/driving is the 8th wonder of the world 😉
One post for each city with hotel, restaurant, site information and pictures are on the way!
Does it seem odd that your boyfriend/fiance/friend seems to have 2,5,11,20… an ever-expanding number of Aunts? Either his parents should have had their own reality show (19 Kids And Counting Indian-style) or you’re missing something.
In Indian culture (and a few others), any woman about 20 years older than you is your “Auntie”. This applies to neighbors, your parents’ friends, your friends’ parents, etc. The same goes for “Uncle”. But BEWARE – notice I said, around 20 years older… like every culture on the planet, no woman wants to be called “old”, so watch out for the neighbor who’s only 10 years older… One rule of thumb I’ve heard: “If they have grey hair, they’re an Auntie or an Uncle.” But tread lightly!
There’s a twist though: you never call your actual Aunt – “Auntie.” There are a particular set of names just for your blood relatives. As far as I know, all of the Indian subcultures put an emphasis on birth order. Therefore, there are different names for older brother, than younger brother. There are also specific names for uncles who are older than your father and for brothers who are younger. I didn’t get started on learning the long list of titles until way too late, now I am about to go to India to meet them all. And from the many “Do you know who I am?” challenges I got at the wedding, I have a feeling I will be put to the test.
Let’s learn together! Feel free to email me at samosasandsunshine@gmail[dot]com with any corrections or variations you encounter!
**Note: The title can be said solo or comes after the name (i.g. Sunshine Auntie, Matt Uncle, Geeta Auntie etc.)
Catch-all for Adult Woman – Auntie or Mami
Any older Adult Man – Uncle or Mama
Grandmother – Pati
Grandfather – Thatha
Mother – Amma
Father – Appa
Father’s older sisters – Peri Amma (means Big Amma)
Father’s older sister’s husband- Athimber
Father’s older brothers – Peri Appa (means Big Appa)
Father’s older brother’s wife – Peri Amma
Father’s younger brothers – Chitha Appa (means Little Appa)
Father’s younger brother’s wife – Chithi
Father’s younger sisters – Athai
Father’s younger sister’s husband- Athimber
Mom’s brothers – Mama
Mom’s brother’s wife – Mami or Peri Appa
Mom’s older sister – Mami or Peri Amma
Mom’s younger sister – Chithi
Mom’s younger sister’s husband – Chitappa
Older Brother/Older Male Cousins- Anna (This is not Anna from Frozen. This is a long A. Ahn-na)
Sister/Older Female Cousins – Akka
Younger Brother – ? Call him by his first name
Husband’s Older Brother – Anna
Husband’s Older Brother’s Wife – Manni
Husband’s Younger Brother – Refer to him as Machiner, but address him by his name because he’s younger
Husband’s Younger Brother’s Wife – Refer to her as Machini, but address her by her name
Mother-in-Law – Mamiar (But in my case, I’ll be calling her what my husband called her – Mumi)
Father-in-Law – Mamanar (Same here – I’ll call him Papa because we want to feel closer)
Son-in-Law – Maple
Daughter-in-Law – ?
Brother-in-Law – Athimber
**Check out how female names end in “i” and male names end in “A” – that will throw you for a while.
You may hear these more often since Hindi is more well known. For example, my husband uses mostly Tamil terminology, but still calls his father PAPA instead of APPA
Mother – Maa
Father – Papa
Daughter – Beti
Son – Beta
Older Sister – Didi
Older Brother – Bhai
Younger Brother – Bhaiyya
Husband’s Older Brother – Jetji
Husband’s Older Brother’s Wife – Jetanhi
Husband’s Younger Brother – Devar
Husband’s Younger Brother’s Wife – Devarani
Mother-in-Law – Saas
Father-in-Law – Sasur
Daughter-in-Law – Bahu
Son-in-Law – Damaad
This is all good in theory, but I have a feeling it’s flexible in real life. For example, my husband has heard his younger brother call him “Anna” a total of 0 times in his life. Hopefully, I can update this post as I encounter each one of these people in person.
Check back next week for the beginning of my Wedding-specific advice. Post 1 will be One Wedding or Two? which will dive into the options on how to create the dream wedding experience that leave you and your husband… and your families satisfied. I’ll go into our own very difficult decision and a post-mortem on how it turned out.
Shortly after, we’ll get into – You’re Inviting Who? A guide on what to expect when working out the guest list for your wedding(s).
As always, please email your own experiences to samosasandsunshine@gmail[dot]com to get in on the action.
The goal of this website is to give readers advice, anecdotes and resources from a non-indian bride who has recently married into a South Indian family. From info on where to get your family outfits for the wedding to the hilarious tale of my first puja and from my MIL’s semi-secret samosa recipe to a guide detailing what you’re supposed to call you FIL’s elder sister, Samosas & Sunshine will be a humorous resource for Indians and non-Indians alike.
Why Samosas and Sunshine?
Since I’m not quite ready to share my name with the world, please call me Sunshine. A smiley blond, Sunshine has been my nickname since childhood. In college, I became interested in Indian culture and made my first trip to India in 2006. When I went back to school that fall I met and woo’d my now Husband with my extensive knowledge of Bollywood. After dating for 8 years and another trip to India, I thought I was pretty knowledgeable about Indian culture. But nothing could prepare me for what happened after my Husband popped the question, and I said yes.
The full force of a new Indian family and the wedding planning process was a crash course in family relations, South Indian traditions, Hinduism, DIL obligations, Indian food, the Indian American community and so much more. I finally became a South Indian wife in the fall of 2015 (and will be a South Indian mother soon if my grandmother-in-law has her way!). I hope my experiences could make someone else’s less overwhelming. Plus, I want to hear from others out there, so I have the tools to cope as I enter this whole new phase of life.
Next Post: Everyone’s an Auntie! Jumping into the deep end with a guide to Tamil family names.